Nothing captures the essence of my teen years better than this post on my Facebook Wall 8 years ago:
"TBH... u go to my camp and u dont talk at all. but otherwise ur relly nice."
And the ironic part is that now I talk for a living!
Thanks to Vanessa Van Edwards for literally teaching me how to talk to people!
How I went from wallflower to a social butterfly (when I want to be one lol) and how you can too:
Awareness: ID the problem and know you need to change
Learn: Seek out resources from people who ought to know
Test: Test what you've learned out in the field that is life
Lifestyle: Get your lifestyle in check. Perhaps your awkwardness is a symptom of a larger problem (drinking, money, etc.). If your life is a mess, your interactions and relationships will also be a mess.
Dress to impress: Look good, feel good
Say it: Stop second-guessing yourself and just say it
Own it: See the way people treat you as largely flowing through you; you can control it
Relax: You don't need to be "on" all the time
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It's funny that many people assume I am an extrovert nowadays. Not true.
I'm still very much an introvert... most of the time.
The only difference between Jordan Paris 2012 and Jordan Paris 2020 is that I now have the ability to switch into extroversion on a dime, which makes me an "ambivert."
Are you an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert (both)?
Download my "How I Went From Wallflower to Social Butterfly" PDF for free: https://jordanparis.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/Wallflower-to-social-butterfly.pdf
